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Rejection= what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger (or so we are told…)

8 Oct

At one point or another in one’s life, we all have been rejected and there is no other way to look at them other than: rejections suck. Whether by a boy/girl, by a parent, by a friend,  you name it–rejection hurts. One can’t ever sugarcoat a rejection, no matter the delivery method: sandwiched, wrapped, bluntly. Bottom line, it’s still a rejection, a door closed, end of the road.

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Today’s post focuses on rejections I, as a writer, am familiar with and how I deal with them. It’s no right or wrong way to do it, it’s just my personal take on them.

I started writing summer of 2009. I chose the self publishing path for several reasons, one of them being my insecurity about how many stories would I be able to write. Was there more than one book in me? Would I be able to deliver quality work, handle deadlines?

Since then I published several novels (5 to be exact) and have several other stories in different stages of being finished. Beginning of 2016 I decided to look for an agent, confident writing is as part of my DNA as the color of my eyes. And so the query stage begun . . .

It’s still vivid in my mind the first query I sent and how fast my heart pounded in my chest, my clammy hand pressing the “send” button, as if I was releasing a nuclear bomb, no less. The empowering surge (me, the little immigrant now a proud American who turned writing from a dream into reality) combined with OMG-what-did-I-do feeling and topped with an incredible overpowering vulnerability. Let me tell you, such a powerful cocktail of emotions brought me on the verge of . . . throwing up.

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That one query letter was followed by several others. I even made myself a beautiful spreadsheet with agent’s names and email addresses, agency’s websites, date I queried them and an empty column at the very end titled “YES/NO.” I wasn’t expecting that column to fill out too soon. All agents warn you about how long it takes to receive an answer (if any). And so the waiting begun . . .

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I remember the first rejection and the hurt it brought. The second, and the third… the deep and dark hole I was spiraling down into… the self-doubt and the acute need to be invisible so people won’t see my bleeding heart. The one rejection I received within exact 15 minutes after sending it, not as one of those automated response but written by the agent from his Iphone, as the end of the email stated. And the list can go on. Every single rejection delivered one blow after another and my hope diminished accordingly.  Somehow, by the 4th rejection something snapped in my brain and the blow, while still disappointing, it’s not hurting as bad.

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To date I’ve accumulated ten rejections. Some of my author friends burn them. Some frame them. Some use them as background for dartboard.

I’m by nature a control freak and shy so putting myself out there was never an easy thing for me, afraid people will judge me and I’d never rise to their expectations. This whole querying process is one of the hardest journeys I’ve embarked on that has taught me a lot of things about myself. My mind is my own enemy so I have to constantly talk myself out of (or in) something but one day, I’ll learn to stop self-doubting myself or so help me whichever power reigns over this universe!!!

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Meet my Character Meme–Blog hop

25 Aug

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Peeps, prepare to go behind the scene, inside my novel in ways you haven’t ever expected. My dear friend Noemi Ghirghi writing as Mimi Sebastian tagged me and I thank her for the opportunity. What are the rules for what’s called MEET MY CHARACTER Meme? It’s simple:

This highlights a main character from one of my soon to be published work. Here are the questions to answer about the main character from a WIP (work in progress):

1) What is the name of your character? Is he/she fictional or a historic person?

Her name is Jane Sullivan and she’s a fictional person. 

2) When and where is the story set?

The story is set in present day, part of the novel happening in the US (Arizona and California) and part of it in Paris, France.

3) What should we know about him/her?

Jane is a widowed make up artist whose goal is to keep her husband’s memory alive and raise their 4yr. old daughter, Ella Rae. She’s very traditional, uptight and lives a simple life. Arrogance and shallowness rub her the wrong way–always. She doesn’t believe in second chances.

4) What is the main conflict? What messes up his/her life?

She gets unwanted attention from Lucas Oliver, an acclaimed model whose face and chiseled abs appeared on thousands of romance novels.   

5) What is the personal goal of the character?

Jane is passionate about writing and pursues her dream of becoming a published author.  

6) Is there a working title for this novel, and can we read more about it?

The working title is Me Tarzan–You Jane. Momentarily I’m shopping around for an agent. More updates soon!

7) When can we expect the book to be published?

We’ll have a press release in the next few months.

I hope you had fun learning a few things about my newest finished work. Now hop over at Mimi’s blog to see what she has in store for you (she writes incredible urban fantasy).
To keep the game going I’m tagging the following authors:

Ana Calin and Carmen Stefanescu. Both women are fellow Romanians writing in English and their prose is outstanding. Check it out for yourself.

Thanks for playing!