Tag Archives: friendship

A delusion called Friendship

1 Oct

Do you ever wonder why—during times of crisis—you react the way you react? Do you ever think that, if faced with some sort of one of those life-altering moments, you know yourself so well that your reaction won’t shock you? Like for instance, a friend tells you they decide to tattoo their forehead / hike Everest / go on Naked & Afraid Show / rob a bank, and when they tell you that, you know exactly how you’ll react to it, but in reality your reaction is quite the opposite, shocking you and your friend, to a point it alters your relationship with him/her. Shock that would make you pause for a surgical, introspective look, not only at yourself, but also at your relationship with that friend. And the deeper you look, the less you like what you see to a point you question not only how well you know yourself but also how well you know (or you thought you know) that friend.

Friends.

images

We all have them and we all have heard at least once in our life the saying “you cannot pick your family, but you can (and you should) pick you friends.” We all build relationships based on likes and dislikes, common ground/morals, values, etc., and develop a support system so when we or them—our friends—fall apart, someone is there to catch us/them. We count on each other during good times and bad times, help each other pass whatever obstacle is thrown at us and eventually watch each other waltz through life.

Some friendships are meant to last a lifetime (they’ll be there to call you on your mistakes but still love you). Some are based on certain commonalities but have limitations (you might agree on politics but disagree on religion). And some friendships are there only when its convenient, through their good times and bad times, but fall apart at your first news of “I’m gonna tattoo my forehead/ hike Everest / go on Naked & Afraid Show / rob a bank.”

This past week my world titled, knocking the air from underneath my wings. For two days I dragged my broken wing trying to “float”, doing that surgical and introspective look at myself. I didn’t like what I saw, so I did what I knew best and reached out to my friends, baring my soul and letting them see my bleeding heart in its full tarnished splendor. Some of them gave me a piece of their mind, knocking me over the head, but also telling me—even though I’m stupid—they still love me. Some hugged me and told me they are sorry. And some got up and left the room.

images-1I stared at that door for a while . . .

I know it’s going to take me a while to process what happened, what triggered that to happen and that eventually my problem will have a solution and one way or another, I’ll be okay. I always am, always have, always will. I’m a fighter who, even after finding that I don’t always like the person gawking back at me in that mirror, I take responsibility for my mistakes and try to repair the wrong I’ve done. I always come back up for air, take baby steps toward recovery and eventually I will heal. But I also know that the door you closed behind will forever remain closed so. . . thank you for walking out like that, sparring me a delusion called friendship.

Book Blast–True Colors by Krysten Lindsay Hager

2 Jul

True Colors CoverTrue Colors

Landry Albright enters a modeling competition with her two best friends, but runs into jealousy when she advances to the next level without them. Enter the gorgeous Devon, who also makes the first cut of the modeling contest. Devon seems like the perfect new best friend, but can their friendship survive the competition? Throw in a new boy, jealousy and loyalty issues, and insults from hair stylists. How’s a girl to deal?

Amazon * Barnes & Noble * Smashwords

Excerpt

The competition was for girls between the ages of thirteen and seventeen, but it felt like Ericka, Tori, and I were the youngest ones there. I only saw a couple of girls from school, and the lineup looked more like something you’d see on a music video set. All the girls were gorgeous, and they had these curvy womanly bodies. I looked like a skinny little kid next to them. The first girl walked out, and I heard the judges say she “owned the runway,” and, “walked like a gazelle.” I was starting to feel ill. I wasn’t sure which way it was going to come, but I knew I had to find a bathroom — fast. I started to get out of line when Ericka grabbed my wrist.

“It’s almost time,” she said. A tiny bit of spit flew out of her mouth and hit my cheek.

I wasn’t sure why she was so intent on me going through with it, but she had a death grip on my arm, so I didn’t have much of a choice. Her number was called and she walked out to the stage. One of the other girls said she walked like a kid with sand bucket stilts on her feet, but she came back with a smirk on her face like she knew she’d get chosen.

“They said they had never seen such long legs,” she said.

Tori was next.

“She walks like a gorilla at feeding time,” said the girl behind me. I went next, and I tried to focus on not tripping over my feet. My mom’s pumps had a rubber sole on the bottom, which probably wasn’t the brightest idea seeing as my shoes were making squeaking noises as I walked. I was so nervous I couldn’t stop smiling as I walked. I looked like the plastic clown who blows up balloons with its mouth at the Pizza Palace. When I got to the end of the runway, I tried to cross my feet to turn like the other girls had, but I over rotated and ended up doing a full spin which made my kilt fan out and gave the mall walkers a view of my blue underpants. I tried to act like it was intentional and did an extra turn. One of the judges put her hand up to stop me, and I held my breath as she started to speak.

add to goodreads

 

Krysten LAuthor Biography

Krysten Lindsay Hager is an author and book addict who has never met a bookstore she didn’t like. She’s worked as a journalist and also writes middle grade, YA, humor essays, and adult fiction. Her debut novel, TRUE COLORS, will be out June 17th from Astraea Press. She is originally from Michigan and has lived in South Dakota, Portugal, and currently resides in Southern Ohio where you can find her reading and writing when she’s not catching up on her favorite shows.

Website * Facebook * Twitter * Pinterest

book blast button

 

Blast Giveaway

$50 Amazon Gift Card or Paypal Cash

Ends 8/8/14

Open only to those who can legally enter, receive and use an Amazon.com Gift Code or Paypal Cash. Winning Entry will be verified prior to prize being awarded. No purchase necessary. You must be 18 or older to enter or have your parent enter for you. The winner will be chosen by rafflecopter and announced here as well as emailed and will have 48 hours to respond or a new winner will be chosen. This giveaway is in no way associated with Facebook, Twitter, Rafflecopter or any other entity unless otherwise specified. The number of eligible entries received determines the odds of winning. Giveaway was organized by Kathy from I Am A Reader and sponsored by the publisher. VOID WHERE PROHIBITED BY LAW.

a Rafflecopter giveaway

Author In The House–Kris Tualla Interview and Giveaway

20 Aug

There are people you meet once and you know they’ll be here to stay. It’s a gut instinct, a voice in the back of your mind telling you, you’re in for a joyride because this new person’s impact and influence will add to your life something meaningful, something special.

One of these people is Kris Tualla. It’s hard to describe what Kris is, but to sum it all it comes down to a wonder woman. What Kris sets her mind to do gets done. And what Kris wants happens.

Aside from being a wonder woman Kris is an author. I met her during my first conference this year called Arizona Dreamin’, an event where readers interact with their favorite writers, one on one. The result? Friendships to last a lifetime.

Kris is here today for an interview. She also brought a paperback copy of her novel titled A Discreet Gentleman of Matrimony. For your chance to win it leave a comment and your email address at the end of this post.

Kris, thank you for stopping by my blog. Tell us what’s a day in the life of author Kris Tualla.

Authoring is my full time job. I spend 90% of my time when I am at home on my computers. My desktop is for non-fiction: email, Facebook, writing blog posts, teaching online classes for authors, designing book covers and other promo items, or planning Arizona Dreamin’~a reader event I created! http://arizonadreamin.wordpress.com/

The rest of my computer time is spent on my laptop where I write all of my fiction. The number of hours I spend on each thing depends on what deadlines are approaching. Funny part is, I can’t switch the computer I do these tasks on because my mind has been trained how to think on each one.

I get easily distracted therefore when I write I need complete silence, door closed. The only person allowed in my office is Bella, my dog. When you write do you need complete silence around you or noise?

I can write in the midst of chaos as long as the chaos doesn’t interest me. But things like songs with words (I’ll sing along), the Olympics (no explanation needed), or my husband’s channel surfing (what is that show/movie?) do pull my attention from my manuscript. Then I have to shut the office door and focus.

I have all these ideas and voices in my head, but for some reason I struggle sometimes to put them on the paper. Do you find yourself at one point or another at a loss for words?

Never at a loss for words, but sometimes unsure of the next scene. I write in a straight line, and sometimes I have to step back and ask, “What needs to happen next?” I put myself into my characters’ heads and feel what they are feeling at that point in the story. When I know it, I can write it.

How did you celebrate the sale of your first book?

That’s an interesting question because I didn’t actually “sell” the first five! I self-published when my agent couldn’t convince traditional publishers to take a chance on my Norwegian heroes. After I fired her and proved myself, Desert Breeze Publishing asked for one of my heroes: Brander Hansen, my deaf “Discreet Gentleman.” They bought five books in his series so far.

What hobbies do you have?

Um… Uh… Does going out for coffee with friends count? Can I get back to you on that?

I’m not identifying myself with any of my characters, yet each one of them has a part of me. Can you see yourself in any of your characters? Which one and why?

Every single one of them. My sense of humor comes out, my logical approach to problems, my personal faith in God. They think like I do for the most part. And if they are thinking wrongly about someone or something, I give them a good, believable reason. Even the “bad” characters reflect some of those same qualities, but with devious motives ~ not pure ones!

What’s one piece of advice you would give aspiring authors? 

The single most important thing every author must do (assuming they are actually producing a product, of course) is get feedback from other writing professionals on their work. I’ve seen so many horrific self-publishing examples and it’s clear as glass that those authors never had anyone look at their work. WE CANNOT JUDGE OUR OWN WRITING. Period.

What has been the toughest criticism you’ve been given as an author? What has been the best component?

The toughest criticism is a comment on Amazon (I know ~ I shouldn’t read them) where a reader gave my book a 1-Star rating because my 1819, logical-like-me, heroine briefly considered raising a child on her own, rather than enter into an uncomfortable marriage. That reader downgraded the entire book based on her five-paragraph inward thought process. REALLY?

The best component was RT Book Reviews 4-Star review of my self-published third novel, the last of my Nicolas & Sydney trilogy. WOOT!!!

Do you prefer ebooks, paperbacks or hardcover?

I prefer to read on my Kindle, no contest. But I do make certain that all of my books are available in print as well because there is definitely a time and place where print books make sense.

What projects are you working on and when should we expect another release? In a few words what is this story about.

Are you ready? *deep breath*

“A Discreet Gentleman of Matrimony” (dead body behind a door locked from the inside) released on August 11 from Desert Breeze. http://stores.desertbreezepublishing.com/-strse-330/Discreet-Gentleman-Book-Two-cln-/Detail.bok

This is the second book in the series and the action immediately follows the first book, “A Discreet Gentleman of Discovery,” where I introduce Brander Hansen, my DEAF private investigator in 1720s Norway. It’s the he-and-she get together launch of the series.

The third book, “A Discreet Gentleman of Consequence,” (international money scheme) releases in December 2012.

I am currently finishing up Nicolas Hansen’s grandfather’s story: in 1749 his grandfather met his grandmother on the ship from Norway. When the ship docked in Boston his father, Reidar, was a month past conception. That book is called “Leaving Norway.”

The next book is Reidar’s story. As a Revolutionary soldier, his life is saved by a beautiful woman ~ whose life he saves a year later. Princess Kirsten Sven is the granddaughter of King Christian VI of Denmark and Norway, and her parents are none to pleased with her attraction to a soldier, even if he is Norse. This book is titled “Finding Sovereignty.”

I hope to have both of these books out by February 1, 2013.

After that come two more for Desert Breeze in 2013: October’s “A Discreet Gentleman of Intrigue” (a spy story) and December’s “A Discreet Gentleman of Mystery” (dead body in a wall). At that point there will TWELVE books in the Hansen saga.

*whew*

For more info about Kris visits:

http://www.kristualla.com/

https://www.facebook.com/KrisTualla

http://arizonadreamin.wordpress.com/

Kris_Tualla_on_Amazon