Shocking Psychology Facts

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Someone please tell my dad that there is no such thing as constructive criticism 😉

Ana Calin

Here is another top 5 Shocking Psychology Facts! And we’ll keep them coming, folks 🙂

  1. Critique harms more than it helps. Even a perfectionist will be caused to under perform if they’re criticized. There is no such thing as “constructive criticism.” If we are to criticize, we should start with praise, continue with our points of critique, and conclude with further praise.
  2. The bystander effect. When people are uncertain, they do what they see others doing, thinking that if others do it, it must be the right thing. That’s why people often stand around and watch other people being mugged or beaten – it’s often not fear, but self-doubt, mistrust in the own perception, which causes them to do what they see others do around them.
  3. People tend to be more honest when they feel someone is watching them, even if it’s only a picture on a wall.
  4. Depression doesn’t…

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One more time …

7 Jan

Every time I lose focus there is this card on my desk that reminds me of what’s important: little steps and staying on track.

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I remember exactly when I bought it and the way it made me feel: free and hopeful. Free of worries that I’m not a good enough writer, that my books aren’t read enough and that I can never achieve greatness. Worries that I am a looser. Maybe I am a looser but one day I will be a winner, because I keep trying….

Cover Reveal & Giveaway–The Rise of Miss Notley by Rachael Anderson

3 Jan

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The Rise of Miss Notley by Rachael Anderson

To escape an undesirable match, Miss Notley must give up her riches for rags.

When Miss Coralynn Notley’s father barters her off to the first titled gentleman to come along, she realizes she must flee her home or be forced to wed a despicable man. Driven by desperation, she applies for the position of housekeeper at Tanglewood Manor, the home of the handsome Mr. Jonathan Ludlow.

The moment Jonathan sees Miss Notley, he is intrigued. She is far too young and inexperienced for the position, yet there is something about her that that inspires a certain hope within him. Does he dare offer her the position of housekeeper or will doing so result in catastrophe?

The Rise of Miss Notley is the delightful tale of a mysterious gentleman and a determined young woman, caught together in a web so tangled it begs the question: Will they ever get out?

Coming February 2017

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A USA Today bestselling author, Rachael Anderson is the mother of four and is pretty good at breaking up fights, or at least sending guilty parties to their rooms. She can’t sing, doesn’t dance, and despises tragedies. But she recently figured out how yeast works and can now make homemade bread, which she is really good at eating.

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Santa was here: Fill Your E-Reader!

25 Dec

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‘Tis the time to share something for everyone’s taste. Desert Muses authors and several of their guests offer books on sale between December 25 to December 31. Remember that tablet or gift card you received for Christmas? Perfect timing to use it, hurry up before the sale ends!

Happy Merry Christmas and may your 2017 be the best year ever!

Revive, refresh, remember…

4 Dec

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It’s been two years since I released ME TARZAN–YOU JANE and I decided to celebrate it with a virtual book tour, reviving that love / passion / excitement a new book brings.  Giselle @ Xpresso Book Tours graciously took over the planning, making thins so much easier for me. Thanks, Giselle!

The tour will be only for a week, between February 13 to February 17th, 2017. If you are a blogger and are interested in signing up for a stop please do so here. There are quite a few options available from reviews, guest posts, interviews or excerpts, not to mention a kindle giveaway 🙂 (feel the love, right?)

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Coupons: to use or not to use them?

11 Nov

Back in the day when I lived in Romania, my homeland, I had no idea coupons existed. I had no idea stores had certain periods when they’d discount their products (like before a holiday), given customers even more incentive if they brought coupons, so their savings would be even greater. And we are not talking lower prices for the let’s say winter clothing heavily discounted once the cold season ended; we are talking sales for produce, ice cream and even shrimp.

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That was something unheard of in Romania where (during communism) grocery stores would rinse chunks of cheese and entire salami casing to wash away the mold. Bad leaves would be peeled off the lettuce head, rotten tomatoes and potatoes hidden under the good ones and poured in the customer’s bag without the option for picking only the good ones. Nothing was wasted but rather forced down the customer’s throat because there was always a shortage of supply and high demand. But let’s leave those memories where they belong—in the past—and return to present times, shall we?giphy-2

We all receive coupons in our mail. Stores ask at check out for your email address or if you want to become a member, promising better deals. Your mail box—whether the physical one or the virtual one—gets bombarded with coupons: restaurants, stores, flights, hotels, shoes, clothing, and the list goes on, but the question is: do these coupons work and how many of us really use them? And how about sales during Black Friday and Cyber Monday? Are those really discounted prices or those are actually the real price we should pay for a blouse/pair of shoes/ TV, etc. but stores manipulate us into believing they are taking a huge cut in favor of saving us money?

Lumi, my sister has a plastic pouch labeled for all her favorite stores. I haven’t had the chance to take a photo of it but it looks similar to this one:

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You need a coupon, Lumi is the person to ask for one. She saves her coupons, cuts them out of magazines or newspapers and uses them all the time. Periodically she’ll forward me a coupon to Einstein (because she knows once a month I buy a bucket of bagels for my meeting with my author friends). Or to Barro’s Pizza, my favorite (cheap) pizzeria. Or to stores both of us like to shop at (White House Black Market or Chico’s).

I too like coupons. At any given time I have several. See this photo? These are my coupons.

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My only problem is that I forget to take them with me (maybe Lumi will gift me a pouch? For Christmas?). Or if I remember to take them, I forget to use them. Every time I try to be better at using coupons, I forget I have them or if I remember, chances are they are already expired. Oh well, it’s the thought that counts right?

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Rude people and why I don’t do concerts

5 Nov

It’s rare I go to concerts lately, in part because of how expensive tickets are, in part because I can only take so much rudeness (and stupidity) in one place at the same time. Let me explain:

Beginning of October I went to a Cyndi Lauper concert here in Phoenix. She’s one of my favorite singers and her songs timeless. Along with two friends we purchased our tickets six months in advanced and, every time we met, we inevitably talked about the upcoming concert and about the fact that “Girls Just Want to Have Fun.”

Little that we knew, our expectations were far from truth thanks to selfish and rude people. As soon as Cyndi Lauper walked out on the stage, the entire room stood to applaud and cheer, and of course we did the same. Eventually Cyndi alternated her songs with fun stories, and most people sat back down. Most. About three rows in front of us a couple stood and no matter how many times we all in the back asked them to sit down, our requests were ignored by the woman especially; while her husband (or friend) chose to sit now and then, she did not sit for one bit.

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I really tried hard not to let them take away from my experience but the more time passed and the more they refused to sit, the more annoyed I turned. How selfish one can be to ignore everyone around them and not care? And that was not all. Halfway through the concert when I resigned myself to seeing Cyndi sing only when she moved from one side of the stage to the other but never in the middle, the guy in front of me yelled “Sit the f*** down!” To which the woman turned and flipped us off with both hands.

Unfortunately that was not the end of rudeness; during one of the breaks from singing Cyndi used to tell us a story, a guy yelled, “Shut the f*** up, Cyndi and sing!” Loud and clear for everyone to hear it. Not even fifteen minutes later, someone else, this time a woman used similar words to everyone else’s dismay. I’m assuming Cyndi Lauper is used to that kind of behavior because she was very gracious about it, but for me it was shocking. Are we that entitled and self-centered that we can’t think of anyone other than ourselves? Is it too much to ask to conduct ourselves in public in a respectful and kind way?

And then, there was the drinking, so much so that some stumbled out of the room at the end of the concert. Don’t get me wrong, a glass of alcohol now and then, either at home or with friends, I totally agree with it. But at a concert you don’t come to get wasted only to turn around and jump behind the wheel, putting not only your own life at risk but that of others, innocent people. If drinking is what you want to do, by all means please do us all a favor and stay at home, watch TV and drink until your brain swims in alcohol. You can stand up the entire time and sing as loud as you want, do whatever you want (including flipping off whoever you want until your fingers numb in pain) and without affecting others. No one will miss you. I know I won’t.

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